“Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.” ~ Soren Kierkegaard
Please be clear:
This is not an article about positive thinking.
This is not an article about how the silver layer makes everything okay.
This is not an article about how your views on anxiety are all wrong.
Kids call those things “toxic positivity.”
There is no poison here.
This. Is Articles about my life Relationship with anxiety And what I learned from something that will not go far. Sometimes anxiety builds up and I feel almost paralyzed. I had a hard time valuing education at the time, but it still exists.
That’s what this article is all about.
Please do not confuse me with learning something that does not go away with me supporting it or saying it is a good thing. I will trade everything I have learned from anxiety to be less anxious. I do not like to write about it because focusing too much on it worries me. But I want to write something that helps people.
How bare buttocks ignited my anxiety
Strange things Demonstrated the coolness of the 80s. For the most part, this is true. I miss arcade and music. I miss the freedom I had as a child that I did not see, the children I have today I miss some fashion. I do not miss people who know nothing about mental health.
We used to play football every day after school at a baseball field in our small town. This is an uncontrolled football game with kids older than me.
I remember one time a man broke his finger. It was pointing back at him at a ninety degree angle. He ran to his house. An old boy said, “He ran home, Mom!” And we all went back to playing.
Strange enough, maybe broken My Fingers do not worry me. What Done Worry, I had a day when a kid was running to hit me and another dove came to stop him. He just grabbed the top of his pants, pulled it down and released his bare buttocks. He was shocked, but while others thought it was funny, it scared me to death.
What if that happened to me?
I started tying my pants with a rope every day, pulling them tight enough to hurt my stomach (remember, this was the ’80s — I wore those neon pants). I started to feel sick before we played football before school and before school Everything.
You would think that it is clear that I am dealing with anxiety, but you have to remember that in the 80s and 90s we did not talk about mental health like we do now. We do not rule out conditions such as anxiety and Depression. I was just a weird kid throwing before he went to school.
Anxiety has been less noticeable in recent years. It seems to be getting worse since the COVID in 2020 and 2021. I do not know if it’s a story or not, but it feels like it. It forced me to deal with it more mentally and intentionally. It was never fun, but I learned some things.
1. Anxiety taught me to be present.
The presence of extreme anxiety forced me to go where I am at the moment. I can not read or write. I can not play video games or watch movies with any pleasure. There was nothing that I could do.
This roots me now in a strict and real way. It’s bad because I’m worried, but it’s another layer. When I can be completely present with the physiological feeling of anxiety, I recognize that it is energy in the body. When I have a high presence, I can see how my mind is turning those feelings into what we call anxiety, and that is where my suffering comes from.
2. Anxiety taught me about management.
I was told my independence was high and I needed to prepare for anything. Injury response. I have been a therapist for ten years and I still do not know what to do with this information. I know that anxiety gives me a crunch in what I can control and what I can not control.
The bad news is that I can not control what I think is causing anxiety. The good news is that I can control my response to all of that. Anxiety forced me to do this on purpose.
Anxiety also puts my heart firmly on something bigger than myself. Maybe it ‘s more powerful than we heard at the AA meeting and at the awards ceremony. It’s good for me to get my head out and remember that I am not responsible for anything. It is only useful for boxes in my weight class.
3. Anxiety teaches me to have good habits and boundaries.
I am not good at letting my habits and boundaries slip when the time is right. I started eating poorly, I stopped exercising, I slept too late, and I watched a lot of programs and movies that showed darkness and distraction directly into my head.
I also started to allow unhealthy people and even toxins to play a more prominent role in my life. This is to help them all because many people contact me. Over the years, I have realized that I have to determine how much I allow the most toxic people to come to me, no matter how much help they need.
When I feel good, I start to think that I can handle it. Borders Slippery. Anxiety is always a reminder that bad things in my life have consequences and I clean the house as it grows.
4. Anxiety reminds me of how important growth is.
As I clean the house, I start looking at new projects and things I can do to feel better. I started to take the next step on who I want to be. This has been difficult for the past 3 years because the waves of anxiety are intense, but I see the light at the end of the tunnel because of the good habits I have put in and new projects and things I have started are starting to bear fruit.
I chose to leave my consulting license inactive and focus on life coaching because it was less stressful and I got better. This will not happen without anxiety. I have changed my diet and exercise in response to high blood pressure and anxiety, and these are good habits to have if I am anxious or not.
5. Anxiety taught me to be gentle.
I wrote and talked a lot about my desire to be gentle with people. I am not. No mercyAnd I have a lot of sympathy for people, but this is often expressed by grumbling or too direct. It’s how I was raised and I often feel like I am helping people if I walk in a circle of words when I am trying to help them with something.
When I am very anxious, I feel fragile, which helps me to understand how others feel when faced with my uncertainty. I started working on softness over 2018 and I was disappointed with my progress.
It was around that year that anxiety began to become the focus of my life again. When I look back, I can see that I was gentle with everyone around me when I was worried. A little fragility helps me treat others with a little care.
6. Anxiety taught me to slow down and ask for help.
As I became more and more anxious, it led me to make quick decisions and change things to try to deal with it. This makes sense. As evolution progresses, anxiety is meant to motivate us to take action.
The problem is that these decisions rarely become my best decisions and often lead to other consequences that I have to deal with. It’s because of this that I realize that stress is not the time to make big decisions.
If I have to make a decision on something, I slow down and try to be very intent on it. I also learned that I had to say it to someone, something I never really wanted to do. Asking for help is a good thing.
7. Anxiety helps me speed up.
Yes, yes, yes, this is the opposite of what I just said.
Let me confirm.
One of the most important quotes I have ever read is from folk singer Joan Baez: “Action is the antidote to anxiety.” (Years later I realized she may have been talking about despair rather than anxiety, but I heard it for the first time).
Some tasks bring anxiety that I do not want to deal with. These usually involve phone calls or emails to bureaucrats or tasks that I find unpleasant and anxious (these avoidances also make sense – our evolutionary legacy does not understand why we would do something that could feel dangerous).
Over the years, I have come to realize that anxiety can be reduced if I take the steps I need to take to cope. The good thing is that it translates a lot into my daily routine.
By acting in the face of anxiety, I get pretty good at doing things when they have to. I mow the grass when I have to cut the grass, remove the garbage when I have to take it out, do the laundry when I have to put it in and put the oil in the car when I have to change it.
When we start solving problems immediately, it becomes a habit. Anxiety helped me do this.
Anxiety still influences
So you go. Seven Anxiety Teaches Me I am grateful for these lessons, but they do not cause any anxiety at this time.
Anxiety is meant to suck. It means making things difficult and uncomfortable for us until we do something to solve the problem. Unfortunately, problems are often unresolved today.
We worry about things like losing our jobs, not having enough money, divorces, and the general state of the world. Anxiety does not develop to deal with these things, so sometimes being comfortable with discomfort is the best we can give ourselves.
Probably the last thing anxiety is teaching me.
About James Scott Henson
James is a writer who wants to help people overcome challenges and make significant changes in their lives. He has worked for over twenty years as a social worker, meditation teacher, and licensed professional counselor. Having found his house in Life trainingHe helps others achieve their goals and create the life they want. As an author, James shared a helpful post on SubstrateBy writing thousands of words every month to inspire competition and motivate his customers.
