Hustle culture teaches us to grab as much as possible and hold it tight. We go through life plans on how to pull ourselves up the ladder to the next goal or big score, continuing to worry that our carefully planned plan will fall apart and we will lose everything.
Fear of ending with nothing (Correct) Surprises us. We throw and open at 3 a.m. on a pile of twisted sheets fighting a delightful combination of destructive, annoying thoughts and (My personal preference) Disaster thinking.
Early in my career, I spent a lot of time worrying about the amount of money or not. I have stress and regular financial exercises in my bank account.
This struggle prompted my quest to not only make more money, but also to have peace with it. I envy anyone who manages to keep quiet when they spend money, and I wish to incorporate that magical mind.
Accepting failure
One time while working as an art director for a publishing house, I told my colleague that I had just lost a $ 500 deposit for a trip that I could no longer accept. Without losing the beat and with his voice, he remarked, “Well, that’s $ 500 you will never see again.”
Off. That crashes. And while it’s real feeling at the time – I’m definitely losing money and getting upset with it – I can not buy the idea that time goes by, money is gone forever and can never be found again.
I did not expect it to show up in such a practical way as checking in my inbox for exactly $ 500. But I still feel like I will meet it again in an unexpected way. At the time, however, I pushed my unicorn level optimism toward defeat and enlisted.
I continued to work hard and consistently save a little money. But I also went into self-improvement and read a money management book that I could shake hands with. And then one day I finally realized something very profound: the money came in and went.
Change the mindset
We have all heard this common proverb, I know. But have you really heard this? And do you believe?
I called my friend Tory about the hardships of her business when she told me the truth, “The money is here.”
For some reason, the word finally dropped. It hit me like a car – yes, the money is here! Slow and flowing due to its operational characteristics. So why am I trying to control it with a microphone?
I have quietly announced that the next time I have to withdraw a change, I will be confident that it will be supplemented by hard work or otherwise. Of course, my new posts and mindsets are often tested.
The power of acceptance
Last summer I visited my friend Christa, who lives a few hours outside of Toronto. Our first stop was a local honey shop that only accepts cash. We both forgot this detail, so we went to the only ATM in town.
We had a lively conversation as we carried out our operations with me, further disturbed by the high-tech nature of ATMs. Eventually we left in turmoil and excitement. (Real intent) Back to the honey shop. After stocking up, I went up to the counter to pay. But as soon as I opened my bag, a burning sensation lingered on me. There was no sign of the $ 200 I had just withdrawn.
It only took a couple of seconds to figure out what happened: I left the cash at the ATM. Shows internal beatings and carefully prepares “I will never have a public collapse and embarrass myself again.”
We hurried back to the bank. But – no surprise here – the money is gone. I have officially issued $ 200. That hot feeling hit me again, but this time I quickly corrected it: in the meantime I took a deep breath and realized I decided to keep quiet. I will not let this small disaster ruin my day, let alone my entire journey.
I was shocked at myself for noticing how I chose peace instead of return. Who is Yoda?
When we got back to Christa’s house, I called my bank to see if there was a way to rectify the situation, they made a case and said I would be reimbursed if the claim was approved.
Choosing the flow over fear
So get the money back? Actually, I do not know. I have never checked. It’s not that I do not care or do not value money. I did. And I do. At one point in my life, $ 200 was the difference between renting and not.
But believe me, money is gone forever and I will always be poor for more than $ 200. Settings. That does not feel good or rich. And knowing what a struggle with money looks like, I certainly want to be rich.
If you’re surprised by my inappropriate behavior, trust me, I’m more so. In my twenties, I developed some bad “running away from money” habits. But after realizing that my attitude was deteriorating, I spent decades consciously learning new positive habits.
I now spend consciously and regularly checking my bank accounts and credit card statements. So why do I ignore numbers?
I do not avoid problems: I am choosing the flow. I chose to believe that more money would come my way, despite the unexpected disappearance of my bank account that day.
Whether it is true or false, I find it more powerful to believe that money flows in a rich circle and that I can be a part of that flow. I can leave the money as I want and / or need and remain open to find my way back.
A healthy new relationship with money is expanding when I remember to do three things:
- Pause and take deep breaths before reacting;
- Acknowledge and accept my feelings;
- Choose ideas that support and expand (Even I do not want to).
Try this simple recipe the next time you are bored about finances.
Yes, you can break a pattern that does not serve you.
The results may surprise you: more peace, more serenity, and an account balance that supports more sweet charms.
